Mothering Sunday is one of those funny days which carries the potential both for such happy celebration and such wistful poignancy. I can't help but be happy today because I cherish my only child so very much - though I still can't quite believe he is now teenage - and I have good memories of my own childhood relationship with my mother as well as current ones.
But there are many for whom today is shadowed for one reason or another, because of bereavement, broken relationship, loss or unfulfilled expectations. There is no easy solution that makes the dichotomy between sunshine and shadows meet happily. It would be wrong not to be happy for what is good but I feel it would also be wrong not to share the shadows in a moment or two's reflection, in which there are no words to be said, only a silent solidarity of attempted understanding.
If you are reading this, I don't know where you stand and sometimes of course, we stand in both the sunshine and the shadows because life is like that.
If you are happy today, I wholeheartedly echo that - I have been happy too, chatting at length to my mother on the phone even though I haven't been able to be with her today and making rose-flavoured ice cream, pink swirly meringues and marinated olives this afternoon with my thirteen year old son and watching a film. (We love cooking together - keep out of the kitchen, everybody else! - and we love eating the results curled up on the sofa watching a good film together.)
If you are wistful or sad, I send you a hug. Not because I can pretend to know exactly how you feel but because, however imperfectly, I have an inkling and I want you to know that I am thinking of you this evening.
|Cup cakes made according to Gillian's recommended Hummingbird Bakery recipe here|
which is a dream - all my cup cakes from now on will be this recipe - thank you so much Gillian!
|... just out of the oven|
|Remember those pink swirly meringues I saw in Villandry? Here's a plateful of the final result |
of the homemade version that H and I came up with today!
|Rosewater-flavoured ice cream|
- needed to use up the egg yolks after the whites went into the meringues
and as you can tell, I am in a pink mood today - for a change!
|Pudding on the sofa - yummilicious!|